What’s wrong with being a mom….

     
         This topic is as old as the day is long, and it’s been done so many times before.  But I can’t help it.  Everytime I see a story/article where a women writer is bashing another woman it makes me just foam at the mouth.  I’m not going to deny that perhaps my religious beliefs don’t play a roll in how I feel, but I personally know another mom who has the complete opposite beliefs in religion as I do, but our view on being a mother and parenting are right in line with each other.  I am so tired of women bashing women.  I’m so tired of being accused of being some sort of 1950s Stepford Wife, trying to keep women down.  It absolutely infuriates me.  It makes me so mad I could just spit.  Why in the heck would one mean the other?  Frankly, I don’t see what is wrong with wanting to stay at home and provide the best that I can for my children.  What is wrong with me wanting to fully support my husband’s career?  What is wrong with making dinner for my family, doing the laundry and most of the cleaning?  I argue that nothing is wrong with any of those things?  What’s more, why am I subjected to thoughts that aren’t my own if I say that.  Somehow I become so old fashioned woman basher if I don’t think that everyone women should just do whatever they want regardless of whether or not they have kids.  And that somehow my husband is probably brainwashing me, and that’s the only possible way that I could come to these facts and opinions on my own.  That every women in the 1940s and 50s was some oppressed person.

         I’m not an idiot, I’m not going to deny that there were plenty of cases where women were forced to do things they didn’t want to do.  I get it.  But did anyone ever stop to think that maybe a woman’s biggest enemy is another woman?  Having a personal belief these days only subjects you to a lecture about how are basically against woman’s right and ability to do anything for herself.  No.  I’m not against women being educated, or working or anything like that.  I have a degree and had I not gotten pregnant my last semester in college I would have gone to work.  I plan on working once all my children are in school in school and grown.  Yes, my husband and I both prefer that I am home to raise the children.  Why is it weird that I wouldn’t want to raise my children myself?  Why is it weird that I wouldn’t want to spend money letting someone spend more time with my children than I do?  I get that some people don’t have a choice, for a long time my mom wasn’t at home.  I don’t think those women or my mother are some horrible slacker of a mom.  It doesn’t seem so hard for me to believe that while I feel personally that my place is at home, and at the same time not pass horrible judgements on someone who doesn’t choose that life for themselves.

     
         How do we know what Ward Cleaver did or didn’t do?  What if he was the one that taught his kids to tie their shoes, throw baseballs, change tires, mow laws, clip bushes, taught his sons the value of women – how they are to be honored and treasured.  Why do we assume that because a women back then may have done most of the cooking and cleaning that the men in their life thought of them as nothing more than slaves?  I happen to believe that men and women are designed differently.  That we have different strengths and weaknesses.  My husband doesn’t cleaning, does laundry and spends time with the kids without me around.  But he does it differently.  He talks with them differently.  He knows and does things that I don’t.  Little girls are continually being taught that they can do anything, but be a mom.  Little boys are basically taught that opening doors for girls is wrong and that girls can open their own freaking doors.  Opening a door for a girl must mean you’re a sexists jerk face.  We don’t let boys be boys, even from a young age.  We need to celebrate each others strengths and weaknesses.  I think that’s what this world needs.

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NOVICA review and giveaway

Hi everyone I’m super excited to bring you this amazing giveaway. NOVICA is an amazing group of designers. That’s really the best way to describe it. It reminds me sort of Etsy, but not at all, which clearly makes no more sense. The mission of NOVICA is to “give artists and artisans around the world a global platform to express their true artistic talents and to spur their creativity.”

        Through NOVICA one is able to connect with artisans all over the world and get real items made by these same artisans. This is better then shopping at World Market! NOVICA is done with a partnership with National Geographic, so you know that this company is taking things very seriously.  

 The purpose of NOVICA is to create a revolutionary system through which the artists and artisans of the world can display their fine works to global audience of prospective customers. NOVICA does not charge artists any fees for listing their items on the website. Furthermore, artists remain fully independent–they are free to raise their prices, lower their prices, or remove their items from our website. By cutting out the long strings of middlemen, NOVICA allows both consumers and artisans to get the most out of each and every transaction.

        You can pretty much get anything you want at NOVICA – area rugs, mirrors, chess sets, jewelry, handbags, clothing and jewelry. Absolutely amazing stuff that you are getting from actual artisans and not just from a factory somewhere.

 This is soda pop tabs, crocheted by hand
 This is also made from cotton
Made in India
Absolutely beautiful right?
I’m not into wall hangings but this is pretty remarkable and exquisitely done
It is cotton and made in India
         You will find all sorts of items in varying price ranges, from the very affordable to the way out of my price range.  But the price really isn’t the issue for me.  I would rather pay more for something that is quality made and will be around for forever, then something I’ll have to just replace in a year or less.  This is especially true for my clothes.  I’ve been trying to purchase classic, nicer items that will last through the seasons.
I was able to purchase two beautiful earrings, one for me and one to give away!  So affordable and beautiful. 

As you can see from the pictures the one of the right is from Bali, and the left is Thailand.  Each comes with its own unique packaging and information card about the artisan and the country they are from.  I found both pieces to be beautiful in person, well made, and the hubby gave me compliments on my pair (on the right).  I had a hard time deciding which one to keep, but I figured I would share the wealth with my lovely readers.  From Bali, we have beautiful Amethyst floral earrings, with 3 gemstone carats and made from Sterling Silver, by had, at a price of $42.95.  From Thailand we have Aventurine and Amethyst dangle earrings, with glass beads in between.  They are put together with sterling silver and silk thread, at a price of $18.75. Gorgeous right?!
One more thing I would like to tell you about is the NOVICA Live program, which is a Home Party Division of NOVICA.  Now you can become a consultant and/or host a party.  You will have confidence knowing you are sharing amazing fair trade and amazingly handcrafted jewelry, shawls and accessories to share with your friends.  You can earn jewelry and gift items, as well as trips abroad to meet the artisans that make the items you sell.  It’s pretty stellar, if you are looking to get your foot in the door of a unique business that is unlike many others out there.  If you decide to check it out remember Cammo Style Love told you!
Good luck in the giveaway, and think of NOVICA for your next gift item.

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Military Monday August 27, 2012

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Happy Monday everyone!  It’s Military Monday here at Cammo Style Love and I couldn’t have asked for a better topic to discuss.  If you are friends with me offline or know me you may have heard one of my many OPSEC rants.  I even wrote an article for Spouse Buzz about it (in which some lovely readers told me I didn’t to take it easy with the caffeine).  It’s okay, I know I’m a little more OPSEC crazy then your average military wife, but that’s just how we are.  The truth of the matter is that I think the average Military wife isn’t OPSEC conscious enough.  However, I don’t necessarily believe it is all their fault.  They aren’t the military member, they don’t often get any training about it, unless it’s a deployment time.  Even then the training is severely lacking in my opinion.  I’m not entirely sure you’re average military member gets the training they need, especially with social media being what it is.  People assume too much.  People assume all things are private and that who would want to see what little ‘ole them might be talking about.  If you had a mama from West Virginia you might have heard this saying, “You know what assuming does?  It makes an Ass out of U AND MI,” get it?!

If I see one more person posting something like, “My husband will be finally home in ___ hours” or posting numerous pictures of all the decorations they’ve put up BEFORE there husband is home, my eyes might roll out of my head.  I’m sure people who will read this post will totally disagree with me, some of you may have even done those things.  That’s fine, you can totally disagree with me.  You can think I’m crazy.  But lets be clear, just because those are my opinions doesn’t mean I think you are some horrible person for doing those things, or that you take the safety of anyone lightly.  I promise I’m not thinking that.  What I’m thinking is that the military is doing a horrible disservice  to everyone by not making sure people are properly educated and making sure their own people aren’t doing some of these very things, therefore setting a bad example.

But, that’s not the worst of the worst.  I reserve ACTUAL feelings of hatred towards people that know better but choose out of selfish reasons to turn their back on everything they know to be right.  Most of you who watch the news have probably seen the story about the former Navy SEAL who has decided to publish a book about the Bin Laden incident.  For the record, Military members, including retired military members can not publish or take part in anything without approval from someone.  Do you know how many confidentiality agreements he probably signed?  And saying that its okay because he is using a pen name is absolutely the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard.  He talks about so much that there really is about three people who it could be, and trust me, everyone involved knows who it is.  I think it’s selfish and petty and frankly egotistical.  Not to mention disrespectful and about a million other things.  I personally won’t be reading it.   I will concede in saying that how can you expect people to care about this stuff when our own President and Vice President were willing to just toss around what SEAL team it was that participated in the raid without so much as a blink.  And its not like anyone could dispute that because disputing it would mean it exists, which they can’t do.  The world of Intelligence, and OPSEC and Top Secret, Classified is a complicated one.  And just so we don’t get all political here – I’m a huge fan of The Rhino Den – got to meet a couple of them at the Mil-Blogging conference – here’s a good article you might want to check out if you want to know more about this type of thing.

One of the comments I read was someone that said, “oh I think it will be so great to read about the SEALs and learn what they are really like and what they really do!”  Well, let me tell you there are plenty of other things out there that can help you do that.

Why don’t you check out these books for starters, both of which have proud places on our bookshelf.  You can win a copy of FEARLESS here on my blog as well.

If you’re not a book person you can always watch

Like I said, these are just my humble opinion, and since I don’t plan on cutting out coffee or soda from my life permanently the caffeine will probably continue to make me crazy.

Have a great week everyone!  I promise, crazy rants like this are extremely few and far between, but when someone like this comes up I feel like talking about it doing the right thing by those I admire and especially in honoring my husband.

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Fearless – One SEALs story

I recently joined forces with Books For Bloggers because reading is really one of my great pleasures.  We are a book household.  My ridiculous stuffed bookshelves are proof of that.  So, getting opportunity to review books is an opportunity I couldn’t pass up.  There was a book I’d seen floating around that I really wanted to get my hands on; and it just so happens that one of the first books I had the opportunity to review was FEARLESS, by Eric Blehm.

When Navy SEAL Adam Brown woke up on March 17, 2010, he didn’t know he would die that night in the Hindu Kush Mountains of Afghanistan, but Adam was ready: In a letter to his children, not meant to be seen unless the worst happened, he wrote “I’m not afraid of anything that might happen to me on this Earth, because I know no matter what, nothing can take my spirit from me.”

But long before Adam Brown became a member of the elite SEAL Team SIX—the counterterrorism unit that took down Osama bin Laden—there was a fun-loving country boy from Arkansas whose greatest goal had been to wear his high school’s football jersey. An undersized daredevil, prone to jumping off roofs into trees and off bridges into lakes, Adam Brown was a kid who broke his own bones but would never break a promise to his parents … until he grew older, and his family watched that appetite for risk draw him into a downward spiral that eventually landed him in jail.

FEARLESS is the story of a man of extremes, whose determination was fueled by faith, family, and the love of a woman. It’s about a man who waged a war against his own worst impulses and persevered to reach the top tier of the U.S. military. Always the first to volunteer for the most dangerous assignments, Adam Brown’s final act of bravery led to the ultimate sacrifice.

FEARLESS is the intimate story of a devoted man who was an unlikely hero but a true warrior, described by all who knew him as just that—fearless.

This was perhaps one of the most beautiful stories, relating to the military and our current military situation, that I have read in a long time.  I felt truly honored to be even allowed to read this book and have an inside look at the life of a man, and his family, who we are lucky to have had tred this ground for the years we did.   Eric Blehm clearly took the time and was 100% dedicated to the story of Adam Brown and to honoring him, his family, and his SEAL family.  After reading the book I discovered that many of the men interviewed for it were lost to us in a Marine Helicopter crash.  That made reading the story even more haunting.  I’m writing this review just as it is hitting the media that another SEAL book will be making appearance on bookshelves in a couple weeks.   If you are interested in a SEAL book, and what to learn about being a SEAL, the life of one and his family then I would suggest picking up FEARLESS.  You can read the first chapter here.  There’s also a wonderful podcast with Eric Blehm here, if that sort of thing interests you.

You can purchase the book on Amazon right now for under $14.00.  Scroll down for a chance to win a copy thanks to WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing.

 I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review.  I was not compensated in any other way for a positive review.  My opinions are my own, take ’em or leave ’em

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