Rhe’s Bookshelf – Love and Respect in the Family


Children need love.  Parents need respect.
 It is as simple and complex as that!
When frustrated with an unresponsive child, a parent doesn’t declare, “You don’t love me.” Instead the parent asserts, “You are being disrespectful right now.” A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts. When upset a child does not whine, “You don’t respect me.” Instead, a child pouts, “You don’t love me.” A child needs to feel loved, especially during disputes.
 But here’s the rub: An unloved child (or teen) negatively reacts in a way that feels disrespectful to a parent. A disrespected parent negatively reacts in a way that feels unloving to the child.  This dynamic gives birth to the FAMILY CRAZY CYCLE.
 So how is one to break out of this cycle? Best-selling author Emerson Eggerichs has studied the family dynamic for more than 30 years, having his Ph.D. in Child and Family Ecology. As a senior pastor for nearly two decades, Eggerichs builds on a foundation of strong biblical principles, walking the reader through an entirely new way to approach the family dynamic. For instance, God reveals ways to defuse the craziness with our children from preschooler to teen, plus how to motivate them to obey and how to deal with them when they don’t. In the Bible, God has spoken specifically to parents on how to parent. This book is about that revelation.
Review:  Another book in the Love and Respect series by Dr. Eggerichs.  I enjoyed the book and the stories were great.  The stories shared about the Eggerichs’ family, the differences in the kids and how they felt about how they were raised.  I appreciated the honesty in the pages of this book.  Although not completely earth shattering, Eggerichs’ brings to the table reassurance and hope for the Christian parent.  Sometimes you don’t need complicated rules or lengthy antidotes to have an impression on someone.  In particular I find that these days, simplicity is the actual key.  Sometimes its whats right in front of you that ends up making the most sense.  Sometimes you just don’t see it.  And as the summary stated in the beginning, “it is as simple and complex as that.”  I will be the first one to tell you that parenting books drive me nuts, but I’ve come to realize that in particular parenting books for babies and toddlers are really my vice.  It’s the real-life parenting books, with real stories and basic principles *and most importantly honesty* that I am finding that I can’t get enough of.  We are always second-guessing ourselves as parents, especially as our kids get older, rely on us less, and are out of our immediate instruction zone.  I’m not sure that that will ever change really, but finding reassurance that what you believe and are trying to accomplish is one of the keys to success.
4 out of 5 stars
You can find this book on Amazon and on loveandrespect.com
**I received this book in partnership with Booksneeze.  I was provided no other compensation.  My thoughts and opinions are my own.

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Rhe’s Bookshelf: PTSD: A Spouse’s Perspective

There are some books you read that you just don’t know what to do with them.  What do you say?  How do review it?  This is one of those books, and I’m frankly still not sure where this review is going to take me.  I’m fairly certain that this is the first time I almost decided to not review the book at all.  But, then I realized that this is my job, and this is what I’m supposed to be doing for my readers.  The topic of PTS, or PTSD, is such a huge deal right now, which is the reason I chose this book.  I know it may pop in the searches of spouses looking for books and resources on the topic.  Ultimately that is why I decided to choose the book, as well as follow through with the review.


Has PTSD invaded your world?

Are you always walking on eggshells? Feel like nothing you do is right? Are you the victim of physical, emotional or verbal abuse? Are you in a relationship with someone who suffers from PTSD? Then this book is a must-read for you. There is hope!
 So many spouses of PTSD sufferers have the false belief that nobody can understand what they are going through. Believe me when I say, you are not alone. There are literally thousands of victims just like you. Facing the same issues everyday that you are facing.

This book is written for you, the spouse, to offer hope by giving you detailed knowledge of PTSD and Secondary PTSD and also offer you coping mechanisms for living in a world of PTSD.

What I Thought: I feel like this book set out meaning well.  There was so much of me that was craving a good book about this very topic, from a spouse’s perspective.  I wasn’t looking for some clinical book, but a REAL book.  You know, something that said, “I know where you are coming from, and feel what you feel.”  This book was terrible, and didn’t meet any of my expectations.  It upsets me to speak so negatively about someone that has gone through something that I know is very real, but there are many reasons why this book just didn’t work.  For one, the style in which the book was written was all over the place.  It wasn’t written like a memoir, but wasn’t written in a clinical manner either.  Part of the problem with the book is the writers own PTS, and secondary PTS.  This caused the book to have an overtly angry tone that was very difficult to break through.  I felt sad and depressed after reading it, not uplifted.  It was so conflicting because I so wanted to find connection with this book.  It just wasn’t there.  However, despite all that there was one nugget within the pages that really struck a cord with me.  At one point the writer spoke about viewing the treatment of the spouse, by the person suffering with the PTSD, as abuse.  It was with that knowledge that she was able to protect herself and seek the help she needed.  Now, it comes off weird.  When a service member comes home with PTS, after experiencing the things he/she has, its not their fault.  And while the author did a poor job of verbalizing it, by viewing the treatment as abusive (with the malicious intent that we see in abuse normally) she was able to better deal with what was happen.  If it could have been explained in a better way, it would have been just the best part of the book.
Rating: One Star
disclaimer: I received this book in partnership with Booksneeze.  I was not compensated in any other way, and am only asked to give my open and honest opinion.  My thoughts and feelings are my own.

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Rhe’s Bookshelf – For Every Season

For Every Season
by Cindy Woodsmall



Working hard to develop a new Amish community outside of Unity, Maine, Rhoda Byler is fully committed to rehabilitating an orchard with business partner Samuel King. But an impulsive decision has created an unexpected strain in her relationship with her beau, Samuel’s brother, Jacob, threatening plans for the orchard. Amidst mounting tension in matters of the heart and business, Rhoda finds that this fledging settlement feels like the home she has always longed for, and she begins to embrace the God-given, heightened intuition that has always felt like a burden to her. She longs for Jacob to fully be free of his past, so they can work towards the future together.
But as Rhoda uses her gift to unpack an old secret with her Englisch neighbors, it is not her beau but an unlikely ally that cheers her on. With the orchard on shaky ground and Jacob’s plans in question, Rhoda is determined to see things through to harvest. But can she trust her insight to direct her path in matters of the heart?
What I thought
I was so thrilled to be able to continue reading this series, thanks to WaterBrook Press.  Cindy Woodsmall’s Amish Vines and Orchards series was my very first Amish book experience.  You can read my previous reviews from this series here and here.  I am so in love with these characters and how Ms Woodsmall portrays them.  You feel as if you are there with them and you truly wish nothing but the best for them.  Ms Woodsmall’s writing style is easy and familiar.  It isn’t simple though.   She does a fantastic job of weaving an intricate, complex tale with an ease about it.  I think this would be such a wonderful book for older teenage girls, however I love it at the age of thirty.  It isn’t all rainbows and sunshines in real life, and this series doesn’t attempt build some sort of fairy tale view of Amish life, or life in general.  It certainly isn’t a downer, but its real.  That’s what drew me, and kept me, with these stories in the first place.  As I’ve mentioned in past reviews, I’m not usually a Amish book reader.  I was concerned that it wouldn’t be relatable, or just plain boring.  Not the case.  I can not believe that I have to wait until April of next year for the next book in the series!!  I don’t want to wait!!!
5 out of 5 Stars!  ( I will read this book again!!)
Here’s a peak at the cover for Seasons of Tomorrow


  And *cough cough*, if you happen to read this Cindy, after watching the book trailer I know am hoping for a Hallmark Movie series based off these books!  It was torture watching this!!


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Rhe’s Bookshelf – My Mama and Me *giveaway*

Time or another Rhe’s Bookshelf review.  This time, I am happy to give you all a chance to win a copy of the
book yourself.   Good luck.

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A companion book to My Grandma and Me, this book is specifically written for mother and child. My Mama and Me is designed around four questions: Can You Tell Me about God? Can You Tell Me about Jesus? What Does God Think about Me? How Can I Show God I Love Him?

Through 25 rhyming devotions and fun activities, Mom can answer these questions for the curious little one. It’s a great way to introduce kids to faith at an early age yet in an age-appropriate and understandable manner. Each devotion also includes a short Bible verse and a prayer that mother and child can recite together. Some of the activities include creating a card, making a heart wreath, and singing—all of the activities are directly related to the theme for the devotion. These devotions translate to hours of meaningful, faith-filled fun.

The book ends with a touching prayer every mother will want to pray for her children.

What I Thought:

 I have a couple different devotions that I’ve used with the kids.  I prefer ones that are interactive.  My kids seem to learn, engaged and remember better when there is an activity associated with whatever it is we are talking about.  Plus it usually gets a moving, or having a discussion for longer.  This particular devotion, beautifully illustrated by the way, is perfect for smaller children, probably about 3 I would say.  The devotions are short enough that your smaller children could sit and read and stay engaged as well.

The devotions are set up simply: Bible Verse, devotion (something that the children learn – God keeps us safe, God gives us what we need, God is your friend), prayer and an activity.  The activities range from simply going outside and looking for things, while some are more artsy.

4 out of 5 stars

This is a great devotional for very young children.  While I’m sure older children (my 5 and 7 year old included) wold enjoy this, I prefer a little more in-depth study, and one where they would sit for just a smidge longer.  The illustrations are sweet and this would make a great gift and/or heirloom.

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Rhe’s Bookshelf – The Winnowing Season, by Cindy Woodsmall

The Winnowing Season (Amish Vines and Orchards, #2)

On the eve of their departure to begin a new Old Order Amish community outside of Unity, Maine, Rhoda Byler is shocked to discover that choices made by her business partner and friend, Samuel King, have placed her and her unusual gifts directly into the path of her district’s bishop and preachers. She is furious with Samuel and is fearful that the Kings will be influenced by the way her leaders see her, and not what they know to be true—that Rhoda’s intuition is a gift from God.

Jacob King won’t be swayed by community speculation. He loves Rhoda, believes in her, and wants to build a future with her in Maine. But when the ghosts of his past come calling and require him to fulfill a great debt, can he shake their hold before it destroys what he has with Rhoda? Samuel has a secret of his own—one he’ll go to great lengths to keep hidden, even if it means alienating those closest to him. Throwing himself into rehabilitating the once-abandoned orchard, Samuel turns to a surprising new ally.

What I thought:
The Winnowing Season is book 2 in the Amish Vines and Orchard Series, and my second Amish book ever.  If you read my review of book 1 you’ll know that I was kind of surprised to really like it.  There were portions of this book that were slower than I normally like.  However, I should be truthful and say that most of the books I normally read are of a much faster variety.  A lot of the stuff that has to do with Amish tradition still got me and sort of broke up the story for me.  I found that it sort of distracted me because I spent so much time being annoyed with that.  It was almost like it got in the way of the story and it didn’t make sense to me.  Some things are so Amish, and then other parts of the story just didn’t follow that same vein.  I still am committed to continuing on with the series because I just want to know what happens next.  So, to that end Ms. Woodsmall has done her job!  The hardest part for me was the Jacob storyline.  It became really frustrating, but I just don’t want to give away too much of the story to elaborate on that.  All I will say is that it is quite emotionally taxing.  The characters are developed well and you learn so much about the Amish culture, which I find extremely fascinating.
3 out of 5 Stars
I received this book in partnership with WaterBrook/Multnomah Publishing and Blogging for Books.  I was not compensated in any other way.  And, as always, my views and opinions are my own.  Take them or leave them.
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