When the Daylight comes – to my MILgirls

A couple weeks ago I was volunteering at an event and I was half-listening, half-paying attention to the people I was there to help, and half-partaking in the conversation.   My sweet beautiful friend was talking about her hubby and his impending deployment.  It was a conversation I have heard come from my mouth and the mouth of many of my friends.  We wish they could just leave.  We could have this beautiful end and then snap they would be gone and we wouldn’t have this dreaded preparation time, the dreaded goodbye.  If you are a milspouse, or mil-anything – girlfriend, fiance’, boyfriend….you know that that time is really hard.  Quite frankly it sucks a lot.  Its tense and sad.  Its an anxious time, pre-deployment; and I feel like it will never end.  We usually fight a little more, I tend to be a little more emotional.  I know the feeling of just wanting to wake up and just have him be gone.  Throw kids in the mix and well, it just gets harder.  You want to be in control for them.  It’s a kindredness that seems to erase years of getting to know someone, building a friendship.  Not many people can come into your life and you feel as if you practically already know them.  The hard part of the military life is leaving so many friends, so frequently.  The great part of military life is finding them wherever you may go.

So, when I was in the car the other day, and heard Maroon 5’s newest release “Daylight” I couldn’t stop the tears.  Have you heard the words to this song?

Here I am waiting, I’ll have to leave soon, why am I holdin’ on 
We knew this day would come, we knew it all along 
How did it come so fast 
This is our last night, but it’s late and I’m tryin’ not to sleep 
‘Cuz I know, when I wake I will have to slip away 
And when the daylight comes I’ll have to go 
But, tonight I’m ‘gonna hold you so close 
‘Cuz in the daylight, we’ll be on our own 
But, tonight I need to hold you so close
It’s exactly everything I think, what I feel, and what my friend was saying to us.  I have no idea what the lyrics were meant to reflect, but as I kept listening it was all I could do to not crumple up and full up ugly cry!
Here I am staring, at your perfection in my arms; so beautiful. 
The sky is getting bright, the stars are burnin’ out. 
Somebody slow it down. 
This is way too hard, ‘cuz I know when the sun comes up I will leave 
This is my last glance that will soon be memories

I want him to leave with amazing memories.  To remember me as the strong and proud woman I am, not an anxious, picking fights, blubbering girly girl that can’t hack it.  I don’t want him to worry about me, or the kids.  I want to be strong, I have to be strong.  But, I also know that sometimes you can’t be all of those things.  It’s okay.  The reality of it is sometimes too much to bear.  It’s important to let you have the moments of realness.  When all you want to do is watch a sappy movie, curl up with a pint of Ben and Jerry’s and let the tears fall.
To all my girls going through something, especially to the three in my life right now, its okay to let yourself go.  Its okay to want him to just be gone.  You are in my thoughts every day.  I keep a little post-it note on my bedroom mirror with your names.  It reminds me of the connection, to think outside myself, and remind myself that I’m not alone You are not alone in this, in those thoughts, in the need to feel strong and brave.  Most importantly its okay to be none of those things.  I love you ladies!  Cheers to you…fighting this deployment.  You are not alone.
And if you feel like it, here’s Maroon 5’s video of Daylight, with Playing for Change Musicians
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Military Monday and *Giveaway*

If you saw my last post about Military Romance novels you might have read its become a recent curiosity for me. It’s not really an obsession, per se….but I do now find myself scanning the shelves for uniforms when at Wal-Mart or Target.  I’ve run across a common thread and I haven’t decided how I feel about it.  So while updating you on my recent reads, and giving you a chance to win some books, I thought I would open this up for discussion.

Here’s my discovery.  Most of the books that I’ve read have the same, but very interesting conclusion.  They have all ended with the military member miraculously timing his declaration of true love and marriage with him someone being able to end his career in the military.  Many times the conclusion is portrayed to the reader by inference that he is choosing his love, and his women, over his career.  The women in the story almost always doesn’t know if she can handle his career and either wonders this allowed all through the book or actually makes that a prerequisite for the returning of her love, or for accepting a proposal.  I don’t know about you but this completely sticks in my craw.  For one it portrays us women in a completely negative light.  Why yes, I will love you, but only if you give up the career that you’ve been in for however long, because I am too week and fragile to handle this difficult lifestyle.  Why yes, I’ll love you but only if you completely give up who you are so that I can have everything I want.  Clearly loving and being with me is a fair trade for whatever you will now have to do to find a career after what seems to me to be a sudden and quick break from your current career.

Now I know I’m totally thinking about this too much, and I’m most definitely reading too much into this.  Are these books not more likely to appeal to the Military Women?  I mean, I don’t know about the rest of us in this category but I wouldn’t mind reading a romance novel that ends with the guy remaining in the military.  It seems to me that there can be love and romance within the military life!  So now that everyone is rolling their eyes at me, LOL, how about I give you a chance to check the out yourself.  Personally I think they are better than any Shades of Grey book out there even though I haven’t read Shades of Grey.  But the military life, while not to be completely romanticized to the point where reality has to place….is pretty darn romantic if you ask me.

What are your thoughts?

Prize: 3 Harlequin American Romance/Operation Family Books
I found all of these at Wal-Mart at different times.  I’d never noticed them before, so I wonder if being in a high volume military location has anything to do with that or not; or maybe I never really paid attention to them before.  This is my first dive into Romance Novels.

The SEAL's Stolen Child (Harlequin American Romance, No 1430)A Baby For Christmas

A SEAL's Secret Baby (Harlequin American Romance, No 1415)

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A Wedding Picture…Canvas love

It’s hard to believe that in August it will be eight years since I said I do to my man.  It’s incredible how time flies when you’re having fun, when you’re having kids, and when life is busy.  Remembering days like that gets harder and harder as time goes on.  Thankfully I’m still holding strong to those memories.  There was awhile though, where looking at those pictures were difficult.  I suppose that is probably one of the reasons why i never got any to hang in the house, or put in a frame on the mantel. It’s a ridiculously long story and one that I probably won’t talk about; but the point is I don’t have anything hanging around my house.  Canvas has always been something I’d admired, but it was always so expensive.  Pinterest has some pretty cool ways to create canvas prints, but I have a feeling that would stay on the boards for quite awhile and would never get done.  When the chance to check out Easy Canvas fell into my lap I jumped at it.  And where else could I start but the wedding.

Not only was this option easier than doing it myself, it was affordable and I could be sure that I would have a professional looking product that reflected that amazing pictures of that day.  It turned out to be a rather easy venture with a self-explanatory process and quite affordable.  The first picture/pose I tried to upload didn’t work for the Canvas.  It couldn’t really be edited properly to get the look that I wanted for the size that I wanted.  But once I chose an image that fit well within the size of canvas that I wanted we were good to go.  The customer service with Easy Canvas was wonderful.  I say they are the place to go  for Custom Photos on Canvas.  I was so pleased with how it turned out.  The colors were gorgeous.  And everything I loved about this picture in digital form shone through in the canvas version.

But the awesomeness doesn’t stop there.  For all my mailitary peeps out there EasyCanvas.com is also BuildASign!  They have an absolutely wonderful program where they provide free Welcome Home banners for our returning troops.  What a blessing for our military families.  I know that if I was in need of this it would be a wonderful blessing.  One less thing that I would have to worry about, think about, and try to find the time to do with three little ones running around and all the other things that a spouse is doing to prepare for the return of their soldier.

Make sure to visit EasyCanvasPrints.com and BuildASign.com to get more information about either program.

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Military Lifestyle Series #5

Happy Monday Everyone!  Its been a crazy last couple days here in the District, which is why things have been a little quiet here on Cammo Style Love.  We had a massive storm, leaving millions without power here in the area.  It was absolutely terrifying!!  The wind was hurricane force and it literally littered our house, cars and yards with tree limbs and branches of all shapes and sizes.  After waking up the next morning and learning about all the devastation and destruction I was so grateful that the giant tree in our yard didn’t get uprooted, like so many other huge trees in our very neighborhood.  But anyway, so happy that we are here and safe and we are one of the lucky ones with power.  What better way to celebrate then another installment of my military life series.

This post is from new blogging buddy discovery of mine.  I happened upon her blog only a couple months ago and was hooked!  Absolutely lovin’ it and she has inspired a few blogging ideas of my own (with full credit of course!).  She’s amazingly fit women, and wonderful mama to their darling daughter and a super wifey to her super hubby!!!  She’s a fellow mil-spouse and has some awesome tips for you fellow spouses out there!!

Hi everyone!  I am SUPER excited to be guest posting for Rheanna today.  My name is Madeline and I blog at Food, Fitness, and Family.  I mainly write about good food, sweaty workouts, and life as a family of three but at the center of it all I am an Army wife raising an Army family.  As any military spouse knows marrying into the military thrusts a never-ending cycle of changes upon as, and we, as women, adapt and move on.  One of the biggest changes a military family can face is a PCS (permanent change of station).  Having done this three times in the last three years I am no stranger to packing up our lives and starting fresh.  Our most recent PCS was 2 months ago to Fort Stewart, GA.  One of the hardest things about moving is leaving an established social network and heading into the unknown.   I jump in feet first when I get to a new duty station and establish a new social network as soon as possible.  These are some tips that have worked for me when trying to meet friends at a new duty station.
1.      Check out your FRG.  Before you gasp and say “not the FRG!” hear my out.  An FRG is a family readiness group designed to support the families.  While not every FRG is a good one there are many many out there that are.  Before you make a judgment on your new FRG try it out.  Then before you write it off because you don’t like it, try to get involved.  Seek THEM out.  They might not have your contact info yet or know you’re there to welcome you.  Send them an email and ask for the information.
2.      See if your installation has a spouses’ club.  Most duty stations still have some sort of volunteer spouses’ club.  Some still have them as officer or enlisted spouses’ clubs but more and more they are being combined into one.  There is typically a monthly luncheon that you can attend.  Again, don’t knock it until you try it 😉
3.      Check out MeetUp.com.  It’s a free service for forming groups.  If you have kids this is a great way to see if there is an established playgroup at your installation.  I have found 3 here at Fort Stewart already.  If you don’t have kids but have some sort of passion, like running, see if there’s a running group nearby. 
4.      Host a BBQ.  Your spouse has it much easier when it comes to making new friends because they are thrust into a new unit where they see people every day and can pick and choose who they want to hang out with.  Mooch off them.  I always invite my husband’s friends, WITH their families, over for a BBQ.  I have made some of my best friends this way.  The added bonus is that since our spouses already got along it opened the door to a lot of “couples” functions.
5.      Go in with an open mind.  True friendship often comes in the unlikeliest places.  Remember that every other military spouse at your installation has been thru what you’re going thru.  I would like to think we are pretty welcoming bunch. 
6.      Pay It Forward.  Once you’ve been at your installation for a while and you have grown your network of friends, reach out to the new wives.  Remember what it felt like to not know anyone and be the person welcoming them to the area.  Invite them out to coffee.  Pay it forward.
Any-who … thanks Rheanna for letting me hang out in your corner of the blogosphere for the day.  J
What tips do you have for spouses moving to a new duty station?  How do you go about meeting new people?
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