Why You Should Practice Self-Care and Choose Joy!

When you’ve lived most of your adult life as a mom life is a little different. There are a lot of things I didn’t do, that most of the world values as things you should do when you are “young” or “college-age”. The seasons of my life might have been in a different order, but I wouldn’t trade that for anything in the world. The Byrds and Ecclesiastes said it best, “To everything turn, turn, turn….there is a season turn, turn turn.” But when you’ve spent the first part of your life being a mom, and thinking about everyone else but yourself you might not know how to NOT do that when the time comes that you don’t necessarily have to as much anymore. The kids are growing up, they are more easily able to go off and do their own thing and be left with friends or family. We have worked hard to instill independence in our children, to let them know that they are safe even when we aren’t there. I always wanted to be able to maintain a sense of who I was even as a wife and a mom. Being out, traveling and being with other people is something that sustains me. It can be hard to do that when you are a wife and mom, especially as a military spouse. And while sometimes I get to do all those things more than other times, it has always been important.

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I made a promise to myself that I would do things in 2019! I would live out adventures here locally and by traveling¬†more. I’ve identified that this is something that speaks to me and something that has been put so far on the back burner of life that it’s actually cold and starting to get a little moldy. The time has finally come, the timing is right and I really can’t wait. 2019 has started off amazing with the most amazing trip to Houston. It centered me, relaxed me, and made me excited. It truly spoke to my soul and I left a piece of myself there. The idea of traveling has never really been something that I considered. Only recently have I even been able to take the time to travel for work, so traveling for myself without it being to visit family has NEVER been a consideration. But I’ve found my joy and what my self-care is and I’m going to keep holding on tight to it.

As women, I think this is hard! As moms, this is even harder. But I challenge you to look for that happiness in 2019! Even if you still have little ones, it’s so important to be the best you and if you aren’t the best you how much can you really give to those around you?

Self-care doesn’t have to be a big production! It can be small. Here are some ideas for some simple self-care:

Manicure or Pedicure

Making time for some “Quiet Time/Devotional” whenever you can

30 Minutes of TV alone and quiet after the kids go to be

Reading a book even when you think you don’t have time

Listening to music

Going out for a cup of coffee

Grocery shopping alone

Getting a hair cut

Visiting a local museum or a new place you’ve never been

Getting a group of girlfriends together for a movie night in OR out

Picking up the phone and calling a friend or your parent

Not cooking dinner and instead ordering pizza or going out

how do you practice self-care?!


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A New Year, A New Me and a New You! {MilSpouse Wellness Summit}


I’m about a week late to the party. The obligatory “New Year’s” post that one must publish when you’re a blogger. My new me was postponed when I promptly became sick on January 2nd. It’s now a week later and I’m still sick, having transitioned from some sort of fever virus to a sinus infection. Murphy has moved in forever apparently. But I’ve got big plans for 2018! Along with the obvious resolutions – move more, eat better, be present – I’m excited to kick off the year with goal of self-care. I think most moms can relate to this. Your life is about your family and your children and self-care falls somewhere at the very end of the list when your children are asleep.

How do you practice ‘self-care’ when you are a busy mom, solo-parenting a lot of the time, and with a lot on your plate? First thing you can do is register for the Military Spouse Wellness Summit 2018!¬† I’m so excited for this virtual summit. This will be my third summit, and it is always an amazing experience. You can join me and fellow military spouses, military girlfriends, wives of firefighters and police officers, as we join together in a united goal of taking care of ourselves. The MSWS will focus on full-body, all inclusive health – mind, body and soul. And as cheesy as that might sound, the organizers behind thing amazing summit know what they are doing.

Host, Corie Weathers, a licensed professional counselor, will take us through our week-long journey of wellness. Joined by guests like Laura Casey, reserve spouse, founder of Southern Weddings and Write the Word Journals; Tiffany Smiley, Caregiver spouse and founder of Hope Unseen and Jess Atkins, founder of the StyleBook app, a virtual closest organizer, I guarantee you will have an amazing experience. Find balance, tools to prevent the burnout – all things that I need to be reminded of my life.

I’ve shared my story many times on this blog, giving snippets of my life a little at a time. Everyone’s military life is unique and mine is no exception. At times it is rough and each year is different. 2018 is going to be one of those rough years I think, but my hope is that this summit sets things up so that I have the tools to cope with things that life throws at me. I know it won’t be perfect, but what I do know is that with my family, friends and faith will help carry me through.

Register for the Summit here! General admission is free, VIP registrations are still available. TODAY is the last day to receive 65% off with code: TRIBE

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